Are you a people pleaser?

Unbuttoning the People-Pleaser and Tailoring Boundaries for a Fulfilling Life

Do you ever feel like you're constantly bending over backward to make others happy? Does saying "no" feel like a betrayal, even when you're stretched thin? If so, you might be a chronic people-pleaser.

Here at Tailored Life Coaching, I understand the pressure to be everyone's favourite person. But what happens when your desire to please others overshadows your own needs and happiness?

This blog post will explore the world of people-pleasing and boundaries. We'll help you identify the signs of people-pleasing and guide you on the path to setting healthy boundaries – boundaries that create a life that's truly tailored to YOU.

Are You a People-Pleaser?

• Do you struggle to say "no" to requests, even when it inconveniences you?
• Do you constantly apologise, even for minor things?
• Do you have difficulty expressing your own opinions for fear of upsetting someone?
• Do you feel responsible for other people's happiness?
• Do you find yourself exhausted and resentful after spending time with certain people?

If you answered yes to several of these questions, you might be a people-pleaser.

Why Do We People-Please?

The need to please others often stems from a deep-seated fear of rejection or disapproval. Perhaps your self-worth was tied to meeting others' expectations in your childhood. Maybe you have a natural empathy that makes it hard to see others unhappy.

Whatever the reason, people-pleasing can be a recipe for burnout, resentment, and an overall sense of inauthenticity.

Tailoring Boundaries for a Fulfilling Life

Setting boundaries isn't about becoming selfish; it's about self-care. Healthy boundaries define your personal space – your time, energy, and emotions. They show others what is and isn't acceptable in your world.

Here are some tips for setting boundaries:

• Identify your limits: What are you willing and not willing to do for others?
• Practice saying "no": It's a complete sentence! Start small and build confidence.
• Communicate clearly: Be assertive but kind. Explain your limitations without apology.
• Respect other people's boundaries too: Boundaries are a two-way street.

Remember: Setting boundaries is a journey, not a destination. There will be bumps along the way, but with practice, you'll create a life where your needs are met alongside those of others.

Ready to Break Free from People-Pleasing?

At Tailored Life Coaching, I can help you explore the root causes of your people-pleasing tendencies and develop strategies for setting healthy boundaries. I'll work with you to create a life that's authentic, fulfilling, and tailored to your unique needs.

Contact us today for more information!

In our next blog post, we'll delve deeper into the art of assertive communication – a key tool for setting strong boundaries. Stay tuned!